Water usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.
The abortion debate will never be resolved.
This is mainly from the two sides arguing about different things.
Pro-life is about how a life starts at conception which means that abortion is murder. Pro-choice is about how women should have a choice to have an abortion.
Lulu’s Bakery on Union Turnpike in Fresh Meadows makes the best chocolate frosted doughnut in NY and possibly the US. I haven’t even had THAT many chocolate frosted doughnuts around the country, but I don’t know how someone makes a chocolate frosted doughnut better than that.
French cuisine is extremely overrated
Keep right except to pass. The passing lane is for passing.
I think Bernie was an idealist and I don’t buy in to a lot of his ideas while appreciating his work to create real change. Don’t crucify me for this.
I wholeheartedly believe there is an alternate timeline where Bernie won the 2016 democratic nomination and won the presidency and we avoided all this shit.
The Cowboy Bebop remake by Netflix was mostly good. It failed because Netflix didn’t advertise “normies” correctly.
I loved it! It’s not as good as the anime but it has this beautiful vibe to it. Like 3 college students made it as their passion project and just so happened to have a stoned uncle who does top notch CG work. I also liked that Faye wasn’t slut coded. All in all, it’s just good.
My biggest pet peeve is people who scalp their lawns and spray shit all over it to make it green and kill the bugs. If it didn’t kill the buggies 'n stuff I wouldn’t care so much but I’d still think it’s dumb cause all they need to do is not mow so aggressively and plant some clover to fix the nitrogen. Like their lawn needs less maintenance not more. Stop fucking spraying shit all over your lawn please AAAAAAAAAAAAAA.
There is no free will. None whatsoever.
What is your basis?
My masters in people science, fieldwork, etc.
Cashiers here have started saying “have a good rest of your day” instead of “have a good afternoon” or something.
It never used to be a phrase.
Its very common now.
I understand that language evolves and that this is probably used often enough to be dramatically “appropriate” now, but i just hate it.
Some how the grammar is just discordant and I find it jarring every time.
Of course, I dont tell cashiers about this grievance, because I appreciate them and I understand this is just me being weird and I try to get through my day offending the fewest service workers as possible.
If you compare it to “have a good day”, it’s longer and awkwarder, and the extra words are to avoid…the scenario of someone complaining that part of the day has already passed and can no longer be nice?
In the same vein of unnecessary specificity: I hate when waiters ask “how is everything tasting?” I have to resist replying that it tastes great but it’s cold and the texture makes me want to gag.
Similarly, I find it slightly annoying when you thank a cashier and they respond by saying you’re welcome. This exchange was purely transactional (I paid for my items and you did your job), so please don’t imply that you did me some sort of personal favor. But like you, I won’t say anything about it to the cashier because their job is already hard enough.
I don’t get this one. You started it going with the thank you. now they have to say your welcome.
When you thank a cashier, it’s just the standard polite way to close the interaction and you’re not actually expressing gratitude to them for simply doing their job. Responding with “you’re welcome” overstates that transactional exchange and implies a social debt that doesn’t exist. It’s an exaggerated response that comes across as presumptuous.
BUT that’s not their intent, they’re just mindlessly saying “you’re welcome” because that’s how their manager or grandma or someone taught them to respond. So although I find it mildly annoying, it’s not something I’d ever point out to them.
Getting married without a prenup in today’s world is foolish. Ask marriage counselors and they will in general tell you to get a prenup. A prenup is wrote by two people and both have their own attorney. Anyone who refuses to get one or even discuss one is someone you should run from. A prenup details how a divorce AND how a marriage should run.
Also anyone who wants operating system or device level age verification doesn’t understand how bad things will get if we do that. It’s only about mass surveillance and selling of your data. It does nothing to protect kids.
(US context) The advice I got was that every marriage has a prenup. If the couple doesn’t write it, it’s just the default prenup their state wrote and it’s going to be crap for both people.
That’s exactly correct
I remember a science fiction story where the marriage license has a seven year term and has to be renewed periodically.
That’s an interesting concept
“The Puppet Masters” by Robert A. Heinlein. There’s an acceptable movie version of the book. The marriage scene isn’t in the movie, though.
Private ownership of vehicles should be banned. Most people’s cars are unused for 90% of the day, which is insanely inefficient. Have a pool of cars they anyone can hire just for the time they need them. It would be cheaper for everyone and there wouldn’t be three fuck ugly cars in front of every house.
Problem is that almost everyone is using them at the exact same time every day to get from and to work.
We had Car2Go in our city, but they went bankrupt because of the tragedy of the commons- got trashed by both terrible drivers and slobs who made every surface sticky… We need a drastically different education and culture first. [might work in japan]
In my area, as in many others, we had a few e-scooter rental companies for a few months. They pretty much just weren’t viable because people didnt care for the stuff. Basically if its rented, people will only care in so far as they can be held responsible.
Additionally, public transport doesn’t really work here because we dont have the population density.
That principle is important.
In any system where goods ( of some kind ) are not owned by the people using them, then you have to make those goods near-impossible-to-break, which is part of where communist Brutalism aesthetic comes from.
There was a book by a shelled-moluscs scientist who was born blind: he sees through his fingertips.
He’s the one who pointed that principle out, having lived in communism for part of his life, & once the principle’s understood, it can’t be unseen.
Know somebody who cares for their tools like jewelry?
They’d all be destroyed, pronto, in communism.
That’s the price that gets paid when nobody owns what they’re using.
And THAT principle, means that it then becomes possible to design means-sharing-systems that can work.
The e-scooter rental systems that many cities now have, is 1 example: idiotproof, indestructible, & they enable significant improvement in the city.
But consider contractors who need to be able to get anywhere, with their tools…
public transport may break their work.
Rurally, not having a vehicle’s … often suicide.
& if the city’s designed like US cities, towns, & villages, where they engineer it to break any other form of transport, then you cannot get to the supermarket without a car, from many locations.
It takes much more whole-systems orientation, to get it right, than what the US has been doing…
< shruggeth >
just some perspectives, is all…
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Yes, its known as tragedy of the commons.
In relation to your hill: While you’re entirely correct, that’s absurdly small potatoes compared to industrial water use. Yes, we should be conscious of our water use and limit unnecessary overuse, but a higher priority ought to be regulating industrial use. Data centers are the obvious example of using way too much for bullshit that ain’t worth the water or power. Speaking of power, we could reduce water use by power plants. Nearly all generate power by boiling water. I’m a power plant operator at a plant that happens to use reclaim water as our source water, and we purify on-site for the main process, and we have a brine concentrator and crystallizer on-site to recycle the cooling tower blowdown and remove the solids to a dumpster that goes to a landfill. Unfortunately we burn methane, so I can’t say that we’re green, but we at least discharge zero water into local waterways (except storm drains when it rains).
My hill: Vote with your wallet. If you really believe in something, stop giving money to companies fighting against it. I won’t buy chikfila because the owners actively spend money on gay conversion camps and lobby to reverse the legality of same sex marriage. It’s impossible to research every little thing before every purchase, and sometimes there’s no reasonable alternative, but something like chikfila is easy to avoid. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism, but don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. Little changes can add up, and doing anything even a little bit better is an improvement over not trying.
Bonus hill: Put your fucking grocery cart into the cart corral. It takes ten seconds and prevents cars from getting hit. It’s kind of the simplest measure for societal decency. I don’t believe in the death penalty, but what value are you contributing to society if you’re too selfish to return your fucking cart?
www.Goodsuniteus.com is a start to seeing where your money goes. Still looking for a better alternative.
The good news is as the giant evil corporations buy up everything it gets easier to just stop buying shit in general.
“that’s just how I’ve always done it” is the worst when it’s used as an excuse to avoid putting effort into personal growth
Nobody in your life agrees with you? You gotta get out of that toxic environment.
my hill: when i post an asklemmy, i place my answer as a comment, so the thread doesn’t become a bunch of replies to my personal answer, so each reply to the post relates directly to the original question
Water usage but in the opposite direction. Yes, I’m going to take a bath. No, I don’t think it makes any actual difference ; go blow up a factory or a data centre if you care so much about water. (Or maybe do it even if you don’t, it never hurts !)
