• Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
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    13 minutes ago

    Yikes, is this true? Because I might need to get some test or something

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    1 hour ago

    It’s worse in you forties and female. I swear I am so stressed that I’m about to have a heart attack. Unfortunately, that almost certainly means an increased dose in meds is a very bad idea.

    I always think everyone is mad at me. I wish I was normal and also 20 IQ points dumber for just a week so I could live for that one week.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    7 hours ago

    Idk I’m pretty sure that’s the trauma associated with growing up/living with adhd.

    Also it’s not that I didn’t do anything wrong or forgot anything, it’s that I have no idea if I did. I could be sitting around having completely forgotten to pay rent until the landlord angrily calls.

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      5 hours ago

      It would be nice if all my bills lined up time-wise. On the one hand, having them at different times means using different paychecks to cover them, so I’m not out a huge chunk of money at once.

      But on the other hand, I never get that feeling of, “Okay, all my bills are covered this month.” It’s always, “Something else still needs to be paid soon… rent? No, I paid that two weeks ago. Is it my phone bill? Mmm nope, I still have time on that. Electricity maybe?”

      Then once it’s all paid, the next month begins and the cycle goes on.

      It never stops. 😭

      • Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        48 minutes ago

        Put all the bills on a credit card set to autopay. Now all you have to do is pay off the card’s balance once a month.

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        49 minutes ago

        You can usually call to have your billing cycle adjusted so you can either spread them out or have them all come due at the same time. Not every bill from every company, like rent might not be super flexible, but most utilities and subscriptions and stuff are willing to roll a partial month into the next billing cycle to give you a new due date.

    • Ioughttamow@fedia.io
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      9 hours ago

      I suppose sometimes when I find a bug I bang out the fix in dev right away and then PM is mad I didn’t go through the whole user story creation and prioritization process

  • bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works
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    5 hours ago

    Doh shit really?

    I’m that person that works extra hours every day because I’m afraid I didn’t do enough…my SO is always asking why i work so much and I’m like well I got distracted for 20 minutes on something now I have to work 20 minutes more to make up for it…it adds up.

    I have an easy wfh job and I feel guilty if I don’t put in the work.

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      5 hours ago

      Wow it makes sense now. I repressed most of my mental trauma (can’t really recall childhood, outside of nostalgia for music and games)

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        I know someone who went through an abusive childhood and suffers from complex ptsd. They recently started anti anxiety medication and that has helped temper their fawn/freeze fear response, but it they still live with it.

        The biggest surprise for them was that everyone else wasn’t plagued with the same constant fear and anxiety, always trying to placate everyone to avoid confrontation.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      7 hours ago

      And teachers. And authority figures in general. My favorite is when psychiatrists aren’t understanding of adhd behaviors

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    8 hours ago

    Nah bro, my mother in law reinforces that feeling on the daily, she won’t miss the opportunity to shit on me.

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    8 hours ago

    My life at work is a bit paranoid at times lately. The fear of screwing up and losing my job goes through my head often. I question if I made the right call’s, or missed something. I’ve made my work much more time intensive. I cannot afford to lose the job I have, it’s not something where I could just go down the street and get a job at a competitive pay. I’d have to start at the bottom, while still owing as much as I do. Feels like I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

    • bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works
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      5 hours ago

      Yeah when things in life are going perfect, I worry.

      Things were going really well for me, then my dog died and my furnace and dishwasher broke in the same week 🫠

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      7 hours ago

      This sounds like anxiety. Anxiety disorders can be linked to ADHD but they’re different things and one can exist without the other.

      Edit: ADHDers have trouble getting stuff done which can easily make you feel guilty. This is what the guy is about I guess but, like many ADHD symptoms, normies or people with other disorders can also experience them.