Does that link lead to a “Server error” for anyone else?

You’re definitely not alone.

I think the key is that we are so often told what to do, but rarely are instructed on how to do it - it’s easy to give advice, but without providing the structure to actually implement the advice, it isn’t worth much. People seem to forget how much work it takes for us to do the things they suggest. Very little advice is as straight-forward as advice-givers make it sound.

Like above, one can say “install time-tracking productivity software” but what does that really mean? To me, it means that now I’ll have to research different types of software. Which means I have to find something compatible with my devices that also: respects my privacy, is easy to use, that has a reasonable price point, and won’t bombard me with ads. If I manage to do all that without getting side-tracked for too long (which is a big “IF”), THEN I have to set up the software and figure out how to use it. Only after all that can I get to the step of actually using it… which honestly, is easy to forget to do as well.

Point is, a lot of “simple advice” isn’t actually that simple for people with ADHD. So when people talk like an idea is some easy thing, it can leave a lot of us feeling like we can’t even reach out for help because iT’s sO siMpLe that asking for help feels embarassing. Yet without guided support, it’s much easier to discount the advice outright than to try to figure out how to implement it on our own. So we fall into that trap, and the “good advice” is ignored yet again.

I really hope the rest of the world leaders keep this at the forefront of their mind: Trump doesn’t keep his word. Also, Trump doesn’t pay his debts.

Attempting to make ANY deal with him is foolish. The wisest move is to expect him to screw over anyone who attempts to “work with” him, because unless you’re holding his purse strings, he’ll use you and lose you at his soonest opportunity. He is a cancer cell stealing resources from all the healthy cells around him - expect him to give nothing and take everything for his own gain.

I know to some that is “preaching to the choir,” but living in the U.S. at a time like this, I really don’t know who’s been charmed by his BS vs who can see what’s really going on. I imagine those outside the U.S. have better perspective, but I can’t just expect people to be rational anymore.

Thankfully, there are some designs that improve on this! Here’s what’s in my kitchen:

The brand is OXO, for anyone curious.

The keyboard I’m currently using has a key in the F-row that’s tied to a lock screen. I accidentally hit it several times a day, and end up having to put in the passcode to unlock the computer every time.

I wish I could disable that stupid key. I’m tempted to pop it right out. But I use a shared computer, so I’m limited in options here.

In this comic, it’s obvious somebody is telling someone else their value - and that is messed up.

But the nuances around this topic are worth addressing. I’ve been dogpiled before for admitting that AuDHD doesn’t bring my life 100% doom & gloom. I recognize the issues that my AuDHD brings, yet some people seem to think it’s a mortal sin to say the things I like about myself that are related to these conditions.

A lot of things suck about navigating the world as someone neurodivergent. It also sucks when someone who doesn’t know your situation tries to tell you how you’re supposed to feel about it. Which is why it’s baffling that, for some reason, some people take any positive interpretation of one’s own ADHD/autism symptoms as some sort of, “sO YOU sHoULd bE hApPy aBoUt iT!”

Bruh, I never said a damn thing about you. I can only speak for myself, and personally I like my creative abilities. I don’t like that I need to keep projects limited to things I can complete within a day (or else I lose focus forever), but it’s still really useful to me.

Is it okay to say that? Because sometimes I think people look for messages that aren’t there. It’s ridiculous to me that being comfortable with yourself, as someone with disabilities, is seen as somehow “wrong” even in a disability-centered space. Am I not allowed to speak unless I’m bitching about my conditions? Sounds like ableist tone policing, but after that dogpile, I really don’t know what’s going on anymore.

Women outnumber men

Wait, did the topic of the conversation change? Because China absolutely does not have more women than men.

The combination of the headline and the thumbnail suggested something far more hardcore was about to happen.

I’d really love to find a new radio for my car that: 1) can serve as a monitor for my back-up camera, and 2) isn’t a fucking touch screen.

There are models that are one or the other, but I haven’t found anything that’s both. The closest I’ve found is a compromise - a touchscreen that also has a few tactile controls. But I don’t want to have to rely on any touch screen when I’m driving. I simply don’t feel compelled enough to spend $400+ for a frustrating half-measure.

You may be a leader and you may be Jewish, but I interpreted that comment to specifically mean the people in power who maintain this connection. That is, “you guys” sounds like an appeal to the Jewish leaders referenced in the article, the US leaders that support the ADL, or both.

I might be wrong, I don’t know OP or what they truly believe. If there is context I’m missing that changes the message, I will stand corrected.

As far as ways to filter for such positions, maybe look for roles that require traveling? At the very least, you’d be in a different location throughout your week.

By this logic, the less predictable your daily life is, the more “alive” you are.

So for a lot of us, to be “alive” is to experience constant anxiety about what’s about to happen.

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Actually, that tracks.

Ohh, that’s clever. It took me a moment.

It’s also worth noting that at the time, Samaritans were seen as an enemy. “To the Jews, a Samaritan was more revolting than a Gentile (pagan); Samaritans were half-breeds who defiled the true religion.”

So when it was written that a good Samaritan was an example of a neighbor, it was more impactful than the phrase implies today. Part of the point was to say that even those perceived as “enemies” are ordinary people that should be treated with the same dignity and care given to one’s own tribe.

I hope this doesn’t come out the wrong way, but I’m curious what AI would be able to do to solve these issues? There are a lot of ways I could see it being used to make plans or ideas, but ultimately wouldn’t people need to trust AI and give it power over our decisions?

Even if AI weren’t plagued with human biases, it’s hard to imagine people agreeing to trust it. People barely trust each other, and we’d have to trust those who program AI not to manipulate it in their own favor.

My friends and I are (almost) all like this. Sometimes we “pin” ideas based on the key words that triggered them. That is, one of us will go, “Oh! You mentioned dogs. I need to put a pin in that idea, because I have a story about dogs when you’re done.” Then we go back to the main story. When it’s over, now (at least) two people knew that there was a “pin” about “dogs.” One of us might forget, both of us might forget, but we’ve found that by mentioning the key word, it’s usually easier for us to find the “lost” thought again.

Your mileage may vary. Some people might prefer to make a note or some other tangible reminder. This is just what works for us, but maybe it can help others too.

Can we please stop pathologizing every little quirk? There is no one way to eat. Just because you’re accustomed to the idea of 3 square meals in a day doesn’t mean that deviation from that pattern is wrong. Different cultures approach meals, meal sizes, and meal times in different ways. How is that any different than an individual eating by their own schedule?

But when you get down to it, this isn’t even about food. If there’s any pathological component to this scenario, it would be the inability to keep track of time and/or sensory differences that don’t trigger sensations (such as hunger) in the same way as neurotypicals. Which we’re already well aware of. Having an unusual eating schedule is just one way that these differences manifest.

Same. No breakfast, no lunch, no appetite. But when I get back home from work, it’s basically one long grazing period until it’s time to go to bed. A few baby carrots here, a few chips there, maybe a sandwich or a salad. The only times I have an actual, full “meal” are when I’m having a sit-down meal with others, like going out to dinner.

I am also somewhat surprised - I didn’t realize this was an AuDHD trait. I love discovering new things from this community.

I like to say we’re part of indigo - it’s a color that’s underrated, overshadowed by more “standard” colors, and often misunderstood or misidentified.

Also, once you get an eye for identifying indigo, you start to spot it more easily. Just as learning more about one’s own autism can lead to one recognizing traits in their family or friends.

I don’t look forward to having the AuDHD talk with my mom. She’d always been terrified at the idea that her kids aren’t nOrMaL. When I was diagnosed ADHD as a teen, she outright dismissed it. I haven’t even mentioned the word “autism” around her because I know exactly how she would react.

Yet, my dad is just like me. Our conversations regularly veer into such niche topics that go completely over my mom’s head. Neither of us “officially” studied these topics (dad went to trade school, not college), we just have the same curiosity and overlapping special interests. Add my siblings to the mix (2 of whom also are likely on the spectrum, with one more sibling who IS diagnosed ADHD), and my mom becomes “the odd one out.”

I don’t think she’d handle that well.