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    9 hours ago

    I just want to clarify, that it’s also commonly used for sex where protection was comprimised. (Broken condoms, forgotten birth control doses. Etc)

    Saying it’s only for unprotected sex can give a stigma that it’s only used by irresponsible people. It can be, but it’s also a backup plan when your previous planning didn’t work, you know……a plan B.

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      9 hours ago

      I’d argue sex with compromised protection is unprotected ;)

      but yeah, taking plan b does not mean you are irresponsible, it’s pretty much the opposite.

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        So, if a woman cannot use birth control pills nor have a temporary sterilization, and therefore the only usable contraceptive is a condom, her sex life is always unprotected?

        Condoms can break if there is a long hair in a spot where it manages to cut the condom’s head off. You can learn to check for that, but many people learn that through, well, trial and error.

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          Condoms can break if there is a long hair in a spot where it manages to cut the condom’s head off. You can learn to check for that, but many people learn that through, well, trial and error.

          since condoms are pretty much the best way to protect against all kinds of stds for sex that includes penises, people should learn to use them probably regardless of other forms of birth control they might or might not use.

          but overall: if you have unprotected sex, you have unprotected sex, yes.

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            8 hours ago

            And also, if you have protected wex, you have protected sex, yes.

            One interesting question: how do you know you have learned everything you need to know about condomology? If I understand right, you consider protected sex unprotected, if the people having it are not aware of some safety aspect regarding how to use a condom.

            You seem to find it important to stigmatise people for having unprotected sex even in situations where they, by their own understanding, are having protected sex. I’d like you to elaborate a bit more on your philosophy, please! :)

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              7 hours ago

              You seem to find it important to stigmatise people for having unprotected sex even in situations where they, by their own understanding, are having protected sex. I’d like you to elaborate a bit more on your philosophy, please! :)

              I’m sorry where did they stigmatize people for any sort of sex here?

              You can accidentally have unprotected sex by using a condom improperly or using a damaged condom. That’s just a fact with no judgement attached to it. If, after the act, you find out that the condom failed for some reason or if you made the decision to have unprotected sex (again zero judgement, I’m not your dad) plan B is not an irresponsible option for contraception. No stigma

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              7 hours ago

              You seem to find it important to stigmatise people for having unprotected sex even

              no, that’s you projecting, i never implied having unprotected sex is a bad thing and don’t have a desire to drive figurative nails into anyones hands or feets.

              and overall my philosophy regarding safe sex is simple:

              if you don’t want kids, use any form of birth control that works for the people involved and if you are not sure about yourself or anyother people involved carrying an std use condoms, regardless of other forms of birth control.