I struggle with this with my son. I do my best, but being interrupted has been a peeve of mine for decades. Ultimately the social cue issues need to be worked at from both sides, it can’t all be one person’s burden or they’ll go mad.
You’re telling people with a disability that they have to work on their disability instead of accepting that you need to make accommodations and cope with them for the sake of those with disabilities to be able to comfortably exist in your presence.
It’s like telling someone with tourettes to just work on not ticking at inappropriate times or the blind to just work on being able to see. You make accommodations for them because you understand that they cannot change this aspect of themselves.
The symptom that is a lack of social acumen isn’t just a lack of effort where they need to try harder. It is a physical difference in their neurology that prevents them from being able to perceive these cues. We can’t just “work on it”.
Yes, it is a struggle but, remember, it is also a struggle for them to simply feel comfortable existing in social settings as a fundamental truth of their existence that they cannot change. You can learn to cope with the emotions you feel because you are dealing with someone with a disability that inconveniences you.
The best we can do is be as polite as we can that we have something that we want to say. It’s you that has to learn to cope that we with this disability cannot innately perceive your arbitrary social cues of when it is appropriate to interject our piece during a conversation.
I struggle with this with my son. I do my best, but being interrupted has been a peeve of mine for decades. Ultimately the social cue issues need to be worked at from both sides, it can’t all be one person’s burden or they’ll go mad.
You’re telling people with a disability that they have to work on their disability instead of accepting that you need to make accommodations and cope with them for the sake of those with disabilities to be able to comfortably exist in your presence.
It’s like telling someone with tourettes to just work on not ticking at inappropriate times or the blind to just work on being able to see. You make accommodations for them because you understand that they cannot change this aspect of themselves.
The symptom that is a lack of social acumen isn’t just a lack of effort where they need to try harder. It is a physical difference in their neurology that prevents them from being able to perceive these cues. We can’t just “work on it”.
Yes, it is a struggle but, remember, it is also a struggle for them to simply feel comfortable existing in social settings as a fundamental truth of their existence that they cannot change. You can learn to cope with the emotions you feel because you are dealing with someone with a disability that inconveniences you.
The best we can do is be as polite as we can that we have something that we want to say. It’s you that has to learn to cope that we with this disability cannot innately perceive your arbitrary social cues of when it is appropriate to interject our piece during a conversation.