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  • My wife struggles with that second one a lot and I wish I knew how to help her.

    Ramble

    She’s built up this golden fantasy of her childhood and where she’s from, and she blames so much of what I file away as “normal life bs” on where we live now. Every time we visit her hometown I see the same problems there that she blames on where we live.

    She has a hard time seeing the benefits of where we live now because she grew up in a tight knit extended family that closed the gaps so to speak. But that extended family has drifted apart. People have grown up. The old matriarchs and patriarchs have passed. That same tight knit family doesn’t exist anymore in the way it used to.

    She basically had a high quality, premade social group and support structure just handed to her growing up. She moved states and life events kept getting in the way of her building a new one. But she blames that on location rather than what is now a lack of effort. Issues she overlooked long ago (and still) with family are things she can’t let go of when faced with them in potential friends.

    And ultimately, the loss of these things just brings her sadness and depression. She’s not in a state where she’s interested in trying to make it work beyond saying she wants to verbally. Pretty textbook depression but there’s complications right now in the way of her seeking help.

    Apologies for the ramble/off my chest shit.







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    Unfortunately LastPass had some issues over the past years with hacking where encrypted vaults were stolen. Between myself and my friends in tech, I know of a few conpanies that ditched it after that.

    For individual/personal use, I’d reccomend KeePass (whatever fork of it is up to date and maintained lately) and using somethung like syncthing to sync it across devices. That may not be super user friendly for non-technical users though, and I’m not sure how well it works with iPhones.


  • This really comes across as if you just keep shifting so that you can continue finding something to complain about. It’s ok to just not like having your camera on man. Not everything has to be the kicking off point for a sociological or anthropological study.

    Backgrounds visible? It forces you to have your space display worthy!

    Backgrounds blurred? Everyone knows your place isn’t display worthy and thinks you’re a disgusting pig!

    Company provided background images? Corporate endorsed removal of individualism!


    What you’ve touched on here is part of the intent. Not that they want to erase individuals, but that in general a more controlled corporate image is seen as more professional.

    If you want to talk about how/why that’s a thing, be my guest, but that has nothing to do with video conferencing. Work dress code and even work uniforms have existed for generations.


  • Oh my god crawl out of your own ass. You don’t know me or what I’ve been through, and your assertion that someone could only say this sort of thing if they never experienced that kind of trauma is asinine and insulting.

    This isn’t elitism, or any other label you’ve got up your sleeve to make it easy to dismiss because you don’t agree with it.

    It’s excruciatingly won life experience. I’m not going to apologize for calling what you’ve described what it is.

    Yes, people are not compartmentalized automatons. But it’s just as ridiculous to argue that people are complete slaves to their emotions to the point of violence, or that it’s OK that they are.

    Actual well adjusted adults are, in general, able to control their response to their own emotions. If they aren’t able to do that to the extreme degree of the examples you used, that is emotional disregulation. That’s literally the term for it.

    As I said before, if you find yourself surrounded by people who can’t, do whatever you can to keep yourself safe and get out as soon as you can. If it’s family, limit your exposure or go no contact.

    I know that sucks to hear when you’re stuck in the unsafe situation, or when you have to rely on those people financially or otherwise. But for your own safety you need to make an exit plan that you can work towards.

    There are plenty of people out there who won’t go out beating people or murdering after a bad day, or even after a bad couple of years. You don’t have to live in a situation with people who do/would, despite how hard it may be to get out.

    For fucks sake, in the past few days I called out someone for making a suggestion to someone living in an unsafe situation that seemed kind on the surface but would put them in more danger. Something I know from personal experience.

    I wouldn’t be here if I hadn’t got out. At best I would have only killed myself.

    I ran from a dangerous situation living with my parents, eight hours away to what I thought was a safe new start and a path forward for my life. I had to move back in with my dangerous situation parents because the person I thought I had my new start with was stealing from what was supposed to be my new support network, and they couldn’t take the risk that I was part of the thefts. I wasn’t. I watched my plans for my life crumble instantly while I had to go back to where I tried to escape. Relationship I built over a quarter of my life, trashed. My safe place, my advocate, had been a liar and a thief from the start and I was too blind to see it.

    And before you try to squirm around more with shit like “clearly you haven’t interacted with the public in a long time or worked retail” or some shit like that: I worked a total of 8 years between retail and tech support.



  • That’s all clear examples of emotional disregulation.

    You’re not wrong that you can’t help what you feel, but everyone has an amount of control and responsibility for how they react to their own feelings, and is ultimately responsible for their own actions regardless of the strength of their emotions.

    If you live in an environment where people regularly excuse shitty, violent, or abusive behavior by using their emotions as an excuse for it, please understand that is not healthy behavior.





  • That’s really hard to say. Comparing 1925 to now is crazy.

    I think embedded tech would be in just about everything, and we’d probably have implantable tech as well. With that, I’d imagine that virtual reality would be nearly indistinguishable from the real thing.

    If we’re sticking to the positive, that would be amazing to effectively make distance meaningless for most aspects of relationships and interaction. Would absolutely change life as we know it.




  • This is why I keep insisting that Kodi (and other open source “media center” solutions) really only work for people dedicatedly ripping their own large collection of physical content, or for pirates.

    I would kill for an all in one, “single pane of glass” way to browse and watch even just only my legally obtained media library (personally ripped discs amd multiple streaming services). But at absolute best I still have content from different sources all squirelled away in their own separate menus, and if I use something like Kodi for the rips I’m stuck at 720p for streaming (assuming the unofficial plugin for Netflix decides to work that day).

    And not even proprietary closed source stuff gets it right. With a chromecast dongle (or whatever they’ve relabeled it now) at best I can search for a specific piece of content from the main menu, and then it’s a crapshoot if say, the Amazon Prime content found by the search is included with my sub or a separate cost. It’s a crapshoot if the “link” will just open the associated app or actually take me to the fucking content in the associated app.

    I don’t get why these streaming services think people care about the brand at all. The less I have to think about the service itself, the more likely I am to ignore how infrequently I use it. The more I have to deal with friction getting to the content, the more I have time to think about if the subscription is even worth the cost.


  • But with AI? I don’t know, I don’t see any stop sign … Maybe that it never reaches this high mark we all expect?

    I personally think that’s the most likely outcome. Most of the advances lately rely on effectively “brute forcing” the problem space by shoving more training data in and by using more resources to calculate weights. There are minor improvements here and there by combining approaches, but development of new techniques has largely slowed to a crawl.

    There’s also still no clear path for any of this tech to make the massive leap from “trained for a purpose” to generalized knowledge, which is the most pointed to “selling point” for the whole idea.

    And all of that is ignoring the fact that OpenAI, the biggest name in the space, operates at a considerable loss. They only still exist because Microsoft can afford to burn the equivalent of a small country’s GDP on the small chance they get to be an industry leader on this. The resource, money, and energy investment for the current results are so absurdly mismatched that unless something huge manages to shake things up, I have a very hard time seeing it ever reach the heights the hype machine has been prophecizing.

    Machine Learning is amazing, has been improving all sorts of things for multiple decades, and will continue to do so long after this current overhyped idea of AI fades away. The current glorified chat bots, generative AI stuff? I think we’re already well past the point of reasonable ROI in terms of resources.