shootwhatsmyname

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  • 100% all those simple ideas definitely work for anyone, but it usually takes far longer for someone with ADHD to implement these ideas and make them a habit on their own, and even more effort to keep the habit going. This is really confusing to someone without ADHD because in their own lives when they put effort in to changing something they usually see results somewhat quickly. Thus, they assume the ADHD individual does not care or have the desire to change because there’s no immediate visible results, or not as many visible results over a longer period of time



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    5 days ago

    I totally agree with you, but it hits different when the advice is delivered by a close friend, boss, SO, etc. who is frustrated with you because they’re assuming your intentions are bad and they don’t respect you or trust you because they think you’re choosing to fail at certain things. When this is happening with most every relationship you have on a daily basis over 10, 20, 30+ years it can be a lot to handle


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    Probably could have worded that better but there’s no perfect analogy :/

    I was trying to say that when you look at someone missing legs most people immediately understand certain areas of life are more challenging for them than for yourself. You might even treat them with more respect because of this and support them when you’re able.

    However, looking at someone with ADHD, you can’t see their prefrontal cortex or neurotransmitters at all. Thus it usually doesn’t make sense why life could be more challenging for them than it is for yourself.

    The reality is most of us default to projecting our own life experience on others as hard facts (sometimes leading to false assumptions other people’s intentions). We could all really benefit from looking at people around us with an openness and curiosity, knowing that there’s a lot we don’t know and can’t see


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    Like telling someone who’s missing both legs to get better shoes so they can keep up.

    On the flip side, someone with legs isn’t gonna understand the point of prosthetics because it would be totally useless to them.

    ADHD has definitely opened my eyes to how much we humans subconsciously assume we know everything based on our own experiences.