My mother has a partially shame based operating system. She uses self shame as a motivational tool that increases her executive function, e.g. she manages to diet by responding to the part of her that tells her to eat chocolate with shame for wanting chocolate. She avoids the chocolate and goes on with her life.

She tried to install that same operating system in me. Due to my shame sensitivity it paralyzed me and left me unable to function. Instead I would spiral in shame and self hatred for my inability to do what she wanted me to do, even though I wanted to do it too.

My system actually works pretty well with love as motivation instead of shame. It just took me 15 years of intensive commitment to inner work to unravel the shame.

That makes two wholelings and a fatling total

404 media seems to be doing good work.

Faith’s Hymn by Beautiful Chorus. It’s a capella, very gentle and harmonious humming and singing. Spotify

Who knew Salad Fingers is a member of a spacefaring civilization

I had such a frustrating time getting onto that site and trying to figure out their karma system after I made it in. Nothing I actually wanted to read or listen to was available until you reached a certain level of upload. I downloaded all the free leech stuff but nobody downloaded it from me. It was a huge waste of time and I gave up eventually.

“Summarize Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg” on the free version of ChatGPT (3.5 I believe).

Here is a large language model generated summary:

“Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything” by BJ Fogg explores how small behavioral changes can lead to significant transformations in one’s life. Fogg, a behavior scientist, introduces a method for creating lasting habits by making them tiny and easy to accomplish.

Key Points:

1. Behavior Model:

   • B = MAP: Behavior (B) happens when Motivation (M), Ability (A), and a Prompt (P) converge at the same moment. To change behavior, adjust these three elements.

2. Tiny Habit Recipe:

   • Identify a tiny behavior you want to incorporate into your routine.
   • Attach this new behavior to an existing routine (Anchor).
   • Celebrate immediately after doing the behavior to create positive reinforcement.

3. Focus on Small Changes:

   • Instead of making drastic changes, Fogg advocates for starting with tiny, manageable actions. Over time, these small actions accumulate and lead to significant changes.

4. Celebration:

   • A crucial part of the Tiny Habits method is celebrating your success, no matter how small. This positive reinforcement encourages repetition and helps solidify the new habit.

5. Ability and Simplicity:

   • Simplifying the desired behavior increases the likelihood of success. If something feels too difficult, break it down into even smaller steps.

6. Motivation:

   • While motivation can fluctuate, designing tiny habits that fit easily into your routine helps ensure consistency, regardless of your motivation levels.

7. Behavior Design:

   • Fogg provides a systematic approach to designing behaviors that stick, emphasizing experimentation and iteration to find what works best for the individual.

By focusing on tiny, achievable changes and celebrating small wins, Fogg’s method aims to make habit formation easier and more sustainable.

Looks like iterative waterfall