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Cake day: August 18th, 2025

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  • The biggest piece of advice is do everything possible ahead of time. Make sure any Will or Trust is rock solid. Make sure deeds and things are located and filed safely away. Anything possible.

    It toook my wife’s family an extra year to sell her grandpa’s house because a wealthy greedy aunt wanted more money and was pissed she was being excluded from getting anything from the house. Getting things down in a proper will would have cut a lot of that off ahead of time instead of proving that grandpa intentionally excluded the greedy daughter. They also then found out they were missing a few documents (I don’t remember everything, wanna say a marriage certificate they needed to prove some stuff to county with) so just make sure you have all of that possible now. If you can get your name on things I’d imagine it would make it even easier but not sure.


  • Don’t have a kid yet but currently trying and I’ve been thinking about this lately, especially after seeing my nephews who definitely have ADHD but aren’t being taught how to handle it at all vs my best friend’s kid who also has it but is being guided better so…I dunno. Take it as the thoughts of a guy who knows nothing but has hard core ADHD himself.

    My plan is to build on my wife and I’s plans to teach them everyone is different, and that includes how you need to communicate with them. I plan to teach them that people have their own thoughts and wants and needs and being conscious of those is important. I do also plan to teach them that not everyone will like them or want to communicate or be friends with them and that’s okay, so long as it’s just because they’re different and not because you did something to hurt them.

    Some people are just not going to accept the energy of an ADHD person, I’m hoping if they know not everyone will like them just because they like different things, that extends to ADHD energy too.

    I’m really hoping we raise our kids to be open and honest with us about what they’re thinking and feeling so we can be aware more of their issues specifically.

    I also found, personally, getting exposed to different cultures and seeing how they think about things differently and interact differently helped me tackle my own communication issues and realize that some people I thought hated me were actually solid friends and just don’t express much (but they’ve shown up every moving day). Not sure how to translate that into teaching moments for a kid other than teaching them about other cultures and gently pointing out differences in my own friends and how it’s okay.

    I’ve got a friend who teaches German and another buddy who’s half Japanese. I’m hoping I can talk them both into taking my kid for a day and doing a culture deep dive.