We all watch porn, instagram is softcore that is public for all to see so it makes it weird. He’ll do what he wants to do and it’s up to you to set boundaries for yourself, make him aware and if he respects them too - you are good, move forward, multiple conversations are needed here.

I’m sure you find other men attractive, but those are just thoughts, women make a living of showing off, men can only do it through other gay men as women don’t pay for porn as much as men.

It’s unrealistic for you or him to not watch porn in this day and age, so yeah you are being over the top, especially if you didn’t make it obvious before. I would think liking pics/videos is fine, anything more than that is pretty bad, men have types, but some days I love redheads with huge tits, other days it’s dwarves dressed like characters with huge butts - so I wouldn’t read anything more than that into it.

Just work on believing and making sure you look like the baddest bitch possible version and it will improve your self confidence. Also I do find it weird you don’t think other guys liking your stories/pics, dm-ing you is not triggering the same type ot jealousy for the other side.