Fuck no! I always found it funny how communities find specific words offensive and look down upon people that use them. Context is important, of course, but the vast majority of cases I witness people swearing are non malicious in nature. (Don’t get me wrong, there are absolutely words/phrases I will never say; again, context is key here)
Coming up with alternative words for the same intent is super silly to me, too. The individual makes it very clear they are aware of the “rules” and are making an asserted attempt to sidestep them. Why bother with all that effort and not simply use the intended word instead?
Be careful asking too many questions as most people won’t read and you’ll end up denying perfectly fine users. You’ll also end up reading essays for each application, which is tedious at best. A simple, “what about <this Lemmy instance> makes you want to join us instead of another instance?” would probably work perfectly fine.