Lol. “Use the laws against him!” Good idea 🙄 Its not like money buys politicians and judges and freedom in basically any place on earth when you have that much of it /s
Btw I don’t know anyone who refers to Canada as “down here”. Pretty sure they mean the US.
Lol. If you consider what they said an insult, what you said is certainly one by your own standards. Maybe don’t be shitty to people for no reason if you’re concerned about such things.
Baked Beans
This is basically an argument they use to deny people IRL
I am a recovering addict, genius. I have plenty of experience, speaking of myself as well as those around me, with meth and many other substances. Not every addict is like that.
The press secretary is a woman…
Wtf? Substance use does not cause hate or Narcissistic behavior or any of that shit. That’s not why they’re evil.
Who is he?
Not in the US.
I have never seen someone use that spelling of practice in the USA.
Read the title of the post 🙄
I do not claim to know what “most people” think and I don’t believe that you have that knowledge either. If you would like to challenge that belief please come with receipts this time, instead of making broad generalizing statements that may seem true to you, when clearly you are biased (not that I’m not, but that’s why I’m not saying shit about what “most people” think).
I agree that you should not be pretending or feigning interest. You should be trying to genuinely find areas of common interest.
How is that at all compatible with the original advice given, which in your own words is the “absolute basics” of approaching and talking to strangers? This is bad advice in my mind and you haven’t said anything to the contrary that is convincing.
Also I would not take your advice on how to talk to people because you’re coming off super patronizing to me.
Let’s say I walk straight up to them and say “I saw you and you sparked my interest, and I’d like to get to know you better.”
Except that’s not what we’re talking about, this piece of advice specifically advises that you hide your intentions.
OK, well what comes next? How do you get to know someone (total stranger) better? It’s going to involve talking about random stuff until (hopefully) you both end up feeling comfortable with each other.
I don’t know about you but I don’t talk about “random stuff”, I talk about things that are important to me and that I actually want to talk about, because that will actually tell me if i feel comfortable with someone and I want to get to know them better.
The other thing is about that first part (“I saw you/wanna get to know you”) is heavily implied by you walking over and saying hello.
Actually it’s not, because in the situation we’re actually talking about you’re approaching a group of people and pretending to be interested in what they’re talking about until you get “an in” with the person you’re actually interested in. That’s lying.
I believe in direct communication, as opposed to playing games. Maybe that’s why I don’t go to a lot of parties or bars etc. it’s hard to talk when there’s so much going on. I have a lot of sensitivity to sensory overwhelm so that doesn’t help. I don’t believe in “small talk” as you’re using it here, I.e. to mean talking for the sake of talking and not about what you actually want to talk about. You’re right that it’s low stakes but it’s basically a mini lie, and I also value vulnerability and emotional honesty very highly.
Maybe for you, but I don’t appreciate when people lead me on like that, especially intentionally.
Eh this feels manipulative and they might notice that. Feels like pick-up artist shit because you arent actually interested in the conversation or the other people and you’re just faking it because your already established intention is to talk to one person specifically, for romantic/sexual reasons
“Every time I have a problem, I just throw a Molotov cocktail, and then I have a different problem!”
How does that work?
You know the saying, be the change and all that. If you think it’s a good idea you should go for it. I don’t know much about fundraising or web design but I would be willing to offer some kind of support, be it some time and energy or helpful resources/tools I am able to find for example. Maybe you can help in ways other than financially as well. We are the ones who need to do the things. The number of those willing to act and speak out against oppression and regression and the cults of ignorance and capitalism has been going down as a result of a concerted effort by very well funded groups and individuals. The sooner we act to pull folks out of the pipelines siloing them off into hateful ideologies (alt-right pipeline comes to mind for example) the sooner we can start the work, individually and interpersonally and otherwise, to end the cyclical perpetuation of harm forced upon us by the systems that we live under. Please feel free to reach out if you want support and resources for taking steps to make changes, and that offer is for anyone who is reading this and doesn’t know where to start and is acting in good faith.