I’ve always figured if a young cat is dirty, wormy, and doesn’t have a chip: fair game even if it isn’t technically a stray. Cats are so destructive to native wildlife that they shouldn’t be allowed outside, so removing one from the streets is a social good even if it nominally belongs to someone.
You can’t draw any real world conclusions from this methodology.
Apples are safe to eat even though the seeds contain arsenic. Take a bunch of seeds and put them in a blender and test it. That test will show them being toxic.
I would like to see a methodology that is closer to real world use. No way to know if it’s a real problem.
I mean, I still totally probably would.
Back in my drinking days, I definitely would have taken her home at last call.
I didn’t comment about her body in that comment.
Anyhow, with caveats, I would totally make that comment in front of the right crowd. I’ve been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows. Cis-het peeps don’t have a monopoly on catty coments.
If someone wears a shirt with a sexual statement on it, then others will make sexual statements about them.
I didn’t even think about the Luigi/Italian thing until I read it in a comment. To me, that shirt said that she has sex better than people who aren’t Italian.
I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don’t remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.
So, I misread the room and my joke was poorly received. I haven’t read the rules for shitposting or whatever and would not be surprised if I violated a rule.
From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements. I think that anyone that denies that the slogan is a double entendre is naive at best. The level of outrage amusing.
You don’t know me or the women and NBs I associate with. Thanks for playing.
This format of tagline has been around since like the 70s. The IT is inherently sexual. Usually something like, “Diamond Cutters Do It Harder.”
It’s a double entendre and isn’t funny without the sexual subtext.
So, unless there was a convention to redifine this joke that I didn’t hear about; yeah, it’s sexual. Anything else is just trying to contort common social mores to fit an agenda.
If it was a big hairy guy wearing a shirt that said “Bears Do It Better” I would also expect sexual jokes.
Oh hey, I’m in this screenshot making an off-color comment. We can debate misogyny and such, probably won’t be very productive.
The thing I find interesting in this: “Italians Do It Better” is an inherently sexual statement. Everyone knows that IT is sex and maybe some other reference with this style of bumper sticker meme. That’s what makes it funny. So then, is it wrong to make a sexual joke about someone who is wearing a funny sexual statement? I don’t think so.
If she were wearing a plain tee or some other logo, I wouldn’t make a sexual joke. This feels like white knight silliness to me.
Yah, the rumor is that the north Koreans got ahold of cellphones with open web access for the first time in their life. So they immediately started watching all the porn and jacking themselves raw.
Fuck that fucking book. Fucking love Banks, but fuck him for that fucking mind ripping thing.
Not getting into the ethics of poor/uneducated people eating endangered species. Everybody sucks. It’s unfortunate.
Turtle is fucking delicious. I’ve only had freshwater turtle from non-threatened species. Best way I ever had was as barbecue sandwiches using a crockpot recipe prepared by an old man. Seven kinds of meat in a turtle. Killed a snapping turtle in a stocked pond once and spent hours trying to recover it just so we could eat it.
That’s miserable.
You might try one of those motion activated air duster things. Or a catapult for the worst one.
I’m not familiar with Owl House.
Lilith, obviously the solid black one, is dumb as a box of rocks. She can be a real pest about wanting attention and will slobber on you and lick you.
Lulu is a deadly mouser and very smart. She is feral in her mannerisms. Does love to be petted but wants to have an escape route. Won’t get in your lap.
Fighting got a lot better when we moved to a bigger place. Now you actually see them side by side like this occasionally. Obviously, “get a bigger house” is not really an answer, but making sure they each have their own space might help.
Just like there is no hate like Christian love, there is no hate like cat hate. IDK, many cats seem to prefer a certain amount of hate and conflict.
Having exported myself from the deep South to Yankee land, “Y’all have a good one!” never fails to brighten the day of someone working a cash register.
In general, folks up here really like southern politeness. They think sugar wouldn’t melt in my mouth. I get stopped in stores to talk all the time. Pretty frequently, they just give me a discount. I thought Yankees were supposed to be rude, but they’re actually really nice in public.
Ruger 10/22 for general varmint control and small game. Ruger wrangler .22 revolver for snakes and close up varmint control, works well with ratshot. Browning BPS 12 gauge for pretty much all shotgun needs.
1911 is also a damn fine handgun.
So I get 10 years of wealth before you harvest my soul? Just sign on the dotted line? Is this ink made from blood?
My presentation had the Russian video where the kid gets wrapped up around a bar. Also had the pictures from where the guy got wrapped around a chuck and there is an eyeball sitting on top of the pile.
The manual lathe is the most dangerous piece of equipment in a shop in terms of fatalities. They cannot be made ‘safe’. You can only train people how to use them safely and not put idiots on them.
I’ve seen the chuck key of shame used and support its use. My rule was one chuck key fuckup, second offense, immediate termination.
I used to have a safety presentation on lathes. It was called, “The Happy Fun Lathe Safety Presentation.” Kittens and puppies on the title and chock full of gore.
SPEAK UP, F**ET! FADDER CAN’T HEAR YOU!
Spacedicks was a terrible place full of terrible people, but I still feel like something has been lost.
Day late. Was totally wiped yesterday and took a down day with the girl on the couch.
… When people, who have unalterable traits, tell you that they do not appreciate being stereotyped, having certain words used to describe them or people like them, or erroneously lumped in as the same as them, in certain contexts and ways… the decent thing to do is just listen to them and not demand an explanation why they find such things offensive.
I wouldn’t quite say I’m demanding an explanation. I would hope you see it as having a discussion with a typical who is genuinely trying to understand and is willing to modify behaviors if they are problematic. I was raised in profound ignorance by religious fundamentalists in the deep south. Sprinkle in racism and pretty much all the other “isms”. I’ve worked very hard to make my way out that ignorance. Asking lots of questions has served me well. I feel like that open questioning and willingness to try and learn is part of the reason I tend to get along so well with people on the spectrum as well as making my way out.
I also have a whole heap of monkey curiosity. Figure it’s a good thing. Want to know and learn about other’s cultures, experiences, and mental states. In no way am I trying to be aversive in this conversation, you just seemed to be willing to talk and I’m satisfying that curiosity. I like different people. Please don’t feel like I’m demanding your time or attention. If you need to tell me to fuck off, that’s cool, won’t hurt my feelings. If you need to space out your responses, I don’t need an immediate reply, take as long as you want.
I do not mean to be offensive, but you describe neurodiverse people in a… typical way that a genuinely well intentioned neurotypical person who has actually gone out of their way to learn about and personally knows neurodiverse people would.
Yup. Glad you see it that way. My wife and I are heavily involved in the BDSM community and are poly. I don’t know what it is, but you can’t throw a stick without hitting a neurodiverse person within our subculture. Neurodiverse individuals are far more common than in the general population. At a guess, 25%; certainly greater than 10% but less than half. It is common for neurodiverse folks to be in positions of leadership or longstanding respected members of the community. Another commonality among neurodiverse folks that I’ve noticed is that they are far more likely to be bi or some sort of trans.
… I am apparently quite an oddity in that I am a high functioning autistic person. I don’t like to use the term ‘savant’ because it connotes that I am some kind of super genius. I’m not a super genius.
I’ve actually known quite a few high functioning autistic people. Wife is some sort of neurodiverse, our former partner was high functioning autistic. Anyhow, savant or savant-like behaviors. Yeah, it’s not a great term. But, you know what I mean. It’s totally a thing. As a typical, I’m unable to make those leaps and do find it endlessly fascinating. Y’all’s brains are working on a different wavelength, and aren’t even on the same wavelength as each other. In this instance, we are looking at someone who is sorting pseudo random text into genetic code and then finding a genetic match. That’s a wonderfully weird thing to do. My questions about ‘Why’ would they do that are rhetorical. Those behaviors, even as a hobby, would never occur to me in a million years.
I suppose that’s what I’m really trying to ask. You’ll see the term ‘autist’ used as an explanation, ‘neuro’ in this case. You, and other autistic people, can find this offensive, and rightfully so. Is there an inoffensive term for these behaviors?
In private playful conversations with my wife, it’s not uncommon for me to call her a “fucking autist” or call her actions ‘autistic.’ This might also occur among close friends. It’s absolutely a slur. I would never, ever, do so publicly. Note that she calls me ‘old man’, calls me ‘bald’ or makes fun of my baldness, makes fun of my ileostomy, makes fun of my accent and so on. We use slurs, in play, for each other all the time. Publicly, it’s very common that I’m the butt of the group jokes because it’s obvious that it doesn’t bother me and I’m an easy and willing target for that sort of humor. (Average height/weight cis-het appearing, bald, white guy with a great beard/moustache and a southern accent.) I have a gruff demeanor so it’s a lot of fun for people to poke at me, especially neurodiverse folks, as they know that I’m a safe target by example from my wife and friends. (Think Jaimie from Mythbusters.)
That’s a whole other thing that happens to me with the neurodiverse. The pure fucking joy they get from playfully picking on me is something else. It’s apparently quite a thrill. Very timid about calling me bald, old, or whatever at first. My wife or friends are usually the ringleaders. I guess it feels subversive or something? I just growl, grumble or frown back with the very timid.
My wife and I have a lot of back-and-forth with this sort of thing. Our relationship is very kinky and this is how we flirt. She initiates by picking on me, gets in ‘trouble’, I put her in her place or give her a swat and a kiss. I initiate by picking on her or giving her a swat, she pouts about how I don’t love her or how mean I am, and I kiss her better. She wants that tingle of fear and then the comfort. Note, we’ve never had a real raised voice argument. We communicate very well. Real relationship issues are handled in an adult manner through discussion including cooling off, if needed. This is our relationship and communication style, it has grown organically between us and isn’t a one-size-fits-all.
With the other neurodiverse folks I’ve been close to, including our former autistic partner, I’ve basically found that we create almost our own dialect between us. I feel like, as a typical, that I have some gifts in being able to communicate and modify my communication style to theirs. I enjoy it and don’t mind stretching myself to their preferred communication style and level of comfort.
… People just enjoy doing things. Sure, some are more niche and rare than others… but why is there even a question as to why someone has some specific hobby as opposed to another?
… Why does an uncommon hobby warrant explanation?
… How can there be an explanation beyond ‘I find it entertaining or fulfilling or enjoyable?’
So, there are hurtful slurs that describe a common behavior among neurodiverse folks. When trying to be inoffensive, I’ve called it savant or savant-like behavior. It’s the sort of behavior that a typical would almost certainly never engage in. As a typical, when it’s pointed out that the person that engages in the behavior is neurodiverse, it’s an ‘aha’ moment often mixed with humor. It would be nice if it had an inoffensive label.
Then they should have taken better care of their cat. Note that I said if it’s wormy and doesn’t have a chip.
I say this a cat lover that never lets our cats outside. There is an argument to be made that almost all housecats should be eliminated through whatever means necessary. The statistics on what they do to ground nesting birds, songbirds, reptiles, etc are pretty depressing. Anything that gets them off the streets and inside is good, in my opinion. They are an invasive species almost everywhere they live.