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I stop doing my hobby thing while I’m still having fun. Which keeps me motivated. Also. I’m shit at it, so no risk of monetizing.

This is such an insightful comment and it nails a couple points.

It can be so hard to simply enjoy the moment, especially when there is so much pressure to be productive. Comparison really is the thief of joy.

Depends on the gym. There is boldering (no rope) you do that completely solo. Some gyms also have auto-belay which is with a rope rope but you don’t need a buddy. A lot of gyms have meet-up groups. It is a full body workout so I recommend giving it a try on a day you don’t have much planned the next day, that’s all. I did most of my climbing solo to be honest.

It’s pretty easy to get started if you have a gym nearby and a little disposable income. They pretty much teach you everything and you can rent gear for a day. Over 30, you’re gonna want to take the next day off.

My job is super active. On top of that, I walk, run, and practice martial arts. I eat healthy af meals (vegetarian). I don’t drink. One cheat meal a week, I guess. Top-rope rock climbing once in a while. 5’, 118 maintaining…which sounds fat, but I’m pretty much just muscles if you don’t count the bewbies.

My vice is candy though. And it’s peppermint bark season. Send help.

“I feel like if it ends here I’ll be satisfied with the story” but there are ten more episodes…yeah i still do that.

Time, and centering my happiness on things besides another person. Like a rediscovery of personal identity.

Sock, but bigger socks or booties over those to keep them clean. My house is clean. Idk why I’m like this.

I think it’s good to discuss our feelings. Men have socially reinforced the exact opposite amongst themselves and had it imposed on them by others. We’ve all heard “boys don’t cry, man up” etc. I worked with a young man who thought he was mad all the time. We broke through that, he was having so many emotions he didn’t know how to label because he simply wasn’t encouraged in that direction. That, I think, is incredibly lonely.

Stack on top of that growing up behind a computer screen, surrounded by manfluencers giving questionable advice, having your formative years recorded and picked apart…not being able to make those early awkward social interactions because of covid for a lot of young men as well…yeah.

Of course I think it does get conflated with a lack of intercourse or whatever. Young women are feeling abused by their lack of rights and they view what would traditionally be awkward young love/courtship as a threat. Incel ideology used to be fridge, but there are a disturbing number of young men embracing these ideas. All while women’s reproductive options are limited, making intimacy more difficult for everyone.

So there’s this historical precedent of not opening up, but boys started to learn not to do that anymore. Just in time to get shut down. It’s not girls fault, it’s not boys fault, it sucks. But I don’t see it improving until intimacy feels safe for everyone again.

Not sure I wanna be penetrated by my washer though there’s a first time for everything. Maybe the agitator is the trick.

I’ve had a clam all my life. I am still somewhat confused about how laundry appliances are supposed to accomplish this task.

In the 00s I was living on my own and working from 16. My teacher took me on as an aid and gave me the smallest of tasks. Most days she just let me sleep on her couch for the period. I was exhausted.

I do like a little jiggle

Well, I did mean what I said. It didn’t take me very long. I used my legs a lot, I suppose?

If you want a big butt just rock climb for a little while. Can’t help with boobs. They are just a backache anyway.

It’s impossible for me. I always turn into the personal therapist. I see too much. And I can’t help it. Just ended a friendship over this because it was exhausting to maintain.

Center the things that help you grow and bring you joy.

Yeah. Sometimes I hear the message ding too. Guess I’m lonely.