Hey, 3 decade ADHD brain, working in the mental health field for ADHD, with ADHD kid and Autistic spouse. I have a few options that help with this that I can suggest.
For starters, goblin tasking. If it’s important enough to do, drop everything and do it when you think of it. Goblins don’t plan to go cause mischief, they see the chance to do it and seize the moment with no thought about before or after. Do that with your chores.
Second, inconvenience yourself. You can’t forget your wallet and keys when you’re leaving the house if you have to take them out of your shoes to put them on. We have a stool next to the door, if something important needs to go with us, it how’s on the stool and the stool goes in front of the door. Literally can’t leave without acknowledging it. Mop the kitchen before you game? Put the mop and bucket in your chair. Can’t sit without moving it and if you’re moving it you might as well do it.
DOOM bucket. DOOM piles are all those piles of stuff you have, it means Didn’t Organize, Only Moved. Once in a while, I push all the doom piles in a room into a giant bucket or box or laundry basket, then I go through said container and put every single thing in a permanent and appropriate place. If I can’t find that place, I decide if I actually need that thing. Normally I don’t and it goes to trash or donation.
Teamwork. The technical terms are body doubling and mirroring. Have someone hang out with you while you do the thing. They can help do the thing, or just be there to provide a stimulus outside of your head. Mine is my spouse, but you don’t have to make it a relationship thing, before her I had a pact with a budy that lived near by, we’d call each other up when we were struggling to get the thing done.
Off load it on a digital assistant. There’s a program called Home Assistant that lets you run your own local Alexa like bot that doesn’t leave your network. It’s a fun project and a helpful tool all in one, you can make it sound like GladOS from Portal, it even tells jokes. I didn’t have the time to do all the work, but I had planned to offload reminders onto the bot with a variety of variables that of would use to decide when to remind me of things.
Lastly, willpower. None of these work of ypu aren’t invested in doing better. If you imagine it as a wall you have to climb, these are ladders that will make it easier, but you still have to climb. They never get rid of the wall.
Hey, 3 decade ADHD brain, working in the mental health field for ADHD, with ADHD kid and Autistic spouse. I have a few options that help with this that I can suggest.
For starters, goblin tasking. If it’s important enough to do, drop everything and do it when you think of it. Goblins don’t plan to go cause mischief, they see the chance to do it and seize the moment with no thought about before or after. Do that with your chores.
Second, inconvenience yourself. You can’t forget your wallet and keys when you’re leaving the house if you have to take them out of your shoes to put them on. We have a stool next to the door, if something important needs to go with us, it how’s on the stool and the stool goes in front of the door. Literally can’t leave without acknowledging it. Mop the kitchen before you game? Put the mop and bucket in your chair. Can’t sit without moving it and if you’re moving it you might as well do it.
DOOM bucket. DOOM piles are all those piles of stuff you have, it means Didn’t Organize, Only Moved. Once in a while, I push all the doom piles in a room into a giant bucket or box or laundry basket, then I go through said container and put every single thing in a permanent and appropriate place. If I can’t find that place, I decide if I actually need that thing. Normally I don’t and it goes to trash or donation.
Teamwork. The technical terms are body doubling and mirroring. Have someone hang out with you while you do the thing. They can help do the thing, or just be there to provide a stimulus outside of your head. Mine is my spouse, but you don’t have to make it a relationship thing, before her I had a pact with a budy that lived near by, we’d call each other up when we were struggling to get the thing done.
Off load it on a digital assistant. There’s a program called Home Assistant that lets you run your own local Alexa like bot that doesn’t leave your network. It’s a fun project and a helpful tool all in one, you can make it sound like GladOS from Portal, it even tells jokes. I didn’t have the time to do all the work, but I had planned to offload reminders onto the bot with a variety of variables that of would use to decide when to remind me of things.
Lastly, willpower. None of these work of ypu aren’t invested in doing better. If you imagine it as a wall you have to climb, these are ladders that will make it easier, but you still have to climb. They never get rid of the wall.