I don’t know who needs to hear this, but it’s not your fault that the modern world is so fucking hard for us.
And it’s not just us, even neurotypical folks are really struggling, but it’s hitting us like a freight train.
We love you being here and we need you to keep being here so badly. We are told from all directions of the modern world that we are the problem - and we need more of us who know how hard it is and can have a little bit of compassion for us.
We can force this world to cut us a break. We can be the ones that stand up for the kids who get yelled at all day because they can’t sit in a chair all day and can’t instantly recall what was told to them 2 minutes ago. We can be the ones who stand up to those who think the only measure of a persons worth is the ability to work in paid employment for 40-80 hours a day.
I love you guys. Just because conformity isn’t our forte and that is the what is valued most in the modern world doesn’t mean you don’t have worth.
ADHD people should be loved for desiring to be a part of something more alien to them because they know it is the only way to move forward together and that one day we will find a way to make our chaos fit within.
The reality is that many ADHD people are far less negatively impeded by chaos, unexpected terrain and conflict that grinds you down to just raw reaction and action than neurotypical types are.
War for some ADHD people is a more “natural” state than the artificial stability and hyperpredictability of modern day life. So why don’t all of us ADHD folks wake up and choose War every day? The reason is because while it kills us to go grocery shopping that doesn’t mean we think grocery stores are a bad idea, we rather recognize we are wired oddly.
The abstractness with which ADHD people have to approach understanding society and what is good for most people and how successfully most ADHD people do that, imperfectly as they may, becomes invisible far too quick.
Same goes for all people with unusual minds of course!
I love taking charge when things go sideways unexpectedly, because there are clear goals, priority, and urgency plus it is likely that I willl need to get creative when solving it or learning something new.