It was sometimes a lack of communication, sometimes problems with our neurodivergences and how we understand relationships, etc…
Most of them though were out of ignorance. I had a lot of toxic ways of talking or acting that had been normalized by everyone all my life, so I didn’t realise they were toxic. I’m still working on it now, and it’s better, but it has taken a lot of introspection and deconstruction.
I think that one of the most important things polyamory has taught me is that nothing has to last forever. So now, I feel safe even if I fuck up , because I know that even if I lose my current relationship because of it I have done my best and learned from it, and keep learning in the future, without the need of breaking up on bad terms.
Good luck! If you have any question I’m glad to help ^^.
Thanks for sharing and for offering to answer any questions! I like the thing you said about you’re outlook changing about “nothing has to last forever” 💜
It was sometimes a lack of communication, sometimes problems with our neurodivergences and how we understand relationships, etc…
Most of them though were out of ignorance. I had a lot of toxic ways of talking or acting that had been normalized by everyone all my life, so I didn’t realise they were toxic. I’m still working on it now, and it’s better, but it has taken a lot of introspection and deconstruction.
I think that one of the most important things polyamory has taught me is that nothing has to last forever. So now, I feel safe even if I fuck up , because I know that even if I lose my current relationship because of it I have done my best and learned from it, and keep learning in the future, without the need of breaking up on bad terms.
Good luck! If you have any question I’m glad to help ^^.
Thanks for sharing and for offering to answer any questions! I like the thing you said about you’re outlook changing about “nothing has to last forever” 💜