Pro-tip: Asking permission to interrupt to say your bit goes down much much better than just interjecting

  • Ex Nummis@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I stopped trying. People don’t want to hear anything I have to say, anyway. It’s probably better this way.

    • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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      1 year ago

      I feel this deep in my bones. I used to feel like this all the time.

      What worked for me is that most of the people who make me feel this way, I realized, are not people I care about. So I just stopped giving any shits about them or telling them anything.

      I dunno if that’s a great way to handle it, but it’s how I get by.

    • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPM
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      1 year ago

      Ah don’t think like that, mate. At worse you need some new friends but I guarantee there’s people out there that match your weird

      • Ex Nummis@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        I see this advice often, and in most cases it’s true. But most people with these issues are young and have lots of time to turn things around. I’m 40 and had my chances and blew all of them.

        • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPM
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          1 year ago

          I immigrated for the second time in my late 30s and lost all my friend circle all over again and then found new ones. There’s a lot of people in the world so no reason to stop looking.

        • bitjunkie@lemmy.world
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          1 year ago

          Dude I’m almost 42 and have had this mentality for most of my life, but am still making new friends. Defeatism is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don’t mistake that for it being correct initially.

        • Rosoe@fedia.io
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          1 year ago

          Always time to change, even if you only get a few years to enjoy it. I respect the dejectedness though.