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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I was going to comment about my own experience as someone who’s autistic, but because you mentioned autism, I’m going to reply to you instead.

    I get the impression that autistic (and other neurodivergent folk) are more likely to be able to think about non-human perspectives as being fundamentally different. I am hypersensitive to most sensory stimuli. Sirens, for example, cause me physical pain. I can hear noises that most people can’t (like high pitched sounds from electronics). It can also be a good thing — during sex, a firm caress on my arm can be as pleasurable as directly stimulating a more conventional erogenous zone (sometimes more so).

    I was diagnosed when I was a teenager, and it blew my mind to realise that I’d been experiencing the world in a way that was distinctly different to the majority of people. Honestly, I still haven’t stopped reeling from that realisation.







  • When I first met some poly people at university, it blew my mind. At first, I couldn’t imagine myself in that kind of relationship, because I struggle with insecurity and expected that I would find that worsened by being polyamorous.

    I came to realise that because polyamorous relationships tend to require a greater level of communication and emotional intelligence, that this was actually probably an easier dynamic for someone like me. Key to this was the understanding that if I’m feeling emotionally neglected by a partner, then that’s between them and me, and doesn’t need to involve comparisons to my partner’s other partner(s).

    I ended up identifying as a relationship anarchist in the end. It feels more comfortable than either monogamy or straightforward polyamory. In practice, the only difference it makes is in how I think about myself, but that matters to me



  • I think a key distinction is that the religious rhetoric is often precisely that — rhetoric. Specifically, it’s rhetoric aimed at an international audience, because conflating Judaism with the Israeli state is essential to how Israel frames itself and its genocide. It allows them to denounce all criticism of zionism as antisemitism, even if those critiques are coming from Jewish antizionists. Meanwhile, Israel’s actions have been helping drive an increase in actual antisemitism, which is also useful for Israel, because it helps them to justify the existence of Israel as necessary for Jewish safety.

    That might seem like splitting hairs, but it’s important if we want to understand what’s happening. Many of the most vehement pro-genocide voices in Israel are secular Jews, as is a decent proportion of Jews in Israel. Judaism is more than just a religion, but an ethnoreligious group, and that distinction is important because Israel cares more about the “ethno-” part of that than the religious part (because like I say, there are many people who identify as secular Jews).

    It’s somewhat analogous to how Trump performs a particular kind of conservative Christian rhetoric that’s more about white nationalism than any Christian ideals. The religious component is important to acknowledge, because many prominent MAGAs aren’t doing it performatively in the way that Trump and some others do, but rather their Christian faith is tightly intertwined with their white nationalism. However, to see this purely as a religious issue would lose crucial nuance of the issue.